When It May Not Be So Simple - Family Dynamics

A lot of estate planning deals with issues other than clients’ net worth. The highest hurdles are often tethered to people and not things.

A vast majority of our clients contact us with at least one similar goal in mind: how can we care for our children when we are unable?

This may seem simple. Our clients want to leave everything leftover upon their deaths to their children in equal shares. Done deal.

Sometimes, however, there may be some… complications.

• What if their children are very young?

• What if their child has a physical or cognitive disability? 

• What if their child is incapacitated or has disabilities at the time this gift is made?

• What if their children have addiction issues?

• What if their children are financially or developmentally immature?

• What if they don’t like their children’s life partners? Or fear an acrimonious split?

• What if they want to care for their children, but not spoil them to the point where the children do not pursue their own careers or endeavors?

No one desires any of the above. But these challenges can happen, and must be met with a plan. Our clients need peace of mind that the resources left for a child actually aids that child—in the state they are in at that time, which may involve some of the above conditions. Clients need to be assured that their child’s inheritance doesn’t inadvertently hurt loved ones, or unexpectedly go elsewhere (like to an estranged spouse or lurking creditor).

Or, sometimes, the client doesn’t want anything to go to their children; or they want an uneven distribution to their children. That’s even more of a reason why they need to have a plan specifying their desires. Simply “leaving it up to them” or giving one child substantially less than another, without proper safeguards, invites litigation. And we know our clients certainly don’t want their life’s work to go into a bunch of litigation lawyers’ pockets.

We talk through these situations with clients, as well as ones with more complicated family dynamics. They are hard conversations, but so important to talk about and plan for now, while you can.

Call and schedule a consultation. We can talk about the above, or anything else specific to your situation.