Marriage: You Either Are Or You Aren't

You’re either married or you aren't. There’s no in between. California does not recognize what some may call “common law” marriage. There’s no magic number of months or years before a romantic relationship transforms miraculously into a marriage.

For the “it’s just a piece of paper, our love is what’s important” crowd, we’re here to tell you that marriage is much more than that. Among other things, marriage confers rights upon someone you are not blood related to. Rights that are often unique to a spouse. In other words, if you’re unmarried–meaning you do not have a marriage license from a government agency–then the law views your partner as a friend that you really, really like.

From an estate planning perspective, a spouse is a family member. They get default rights against a deceased spouse’s estate. They receive major tax benefits from local, state, and federal taxing authorities. The law is very protective over surviving spouses. Not so much over long term unmarried partners, or even “we’re pretty much married” people. Those are all roommates under the law, and they get no special benefits.

What about domestic partners? Surely, that’s a special designation, right? Domestic partnerships are only recognized by some state and local governments. The federal government has no recognition for domestic partnerships. To the federal government, you’re either married or unmarried.

But some people have children together and never get married. That’s an exception, right? Nope. You certainly share very important responsibilities with one another, but you’re still not married spouses under the law. End of story.

Marriage is much more than some mere formality. It’s a very important legal union between two people.

That all being said, marriage is not for everyone. And that’s totally fine! However, if you do decide to not marry–for WHATEVER reason–then it is extremely critical that you create an estate plan, and specifically provide for any unmarried loved ones that you want to care for. And also to name your unmarried partner as someone who may have legal authority to assist you, and vice versa. Without reducing your wishes to writing, your unmarried partner will receive no special treatment by default, nor will they have legal authority to assist you if that scenario arises.

Whether you are married, but especially if you are not, it is critical to have your wishes reduced to writing so that the appropriate people (and pets) are cared for and that the right people have the appropriate legal authority to act when necessary.

Estate Planning for Divorced Spouses

Divorces happen. That much is obvious. Why they occur, and how frequently, is a bit more nuanced. And we can leave that for another law firm’s blog. If you’re divorced, or considering a divorce, remember to update or create your estate plan accordingly. For a quick refresher on marriage in California, read our prior post.

Untangling a marriage can be emotionally draining, legally complicated, and sometimes overwhelming. That being said, having a plan in place in case something happens to you either before, during, or after a divorce should not be moved to the back burner.

In California, divorces can take months to years to complete. A lot can happen during that time, even if the divorce is an amicable or “straightforward” divorce. Additionally, all divorces in California trigger what are called “automatic temporary restraining orders” (ATROs). When either spouse files a petition for dissolution (that’s legal speak for divorce) and serves the papers on the other spouse, the ATROs are triggered requiring both spouses to maintain financial status quo. The ATROs help prevent one or both spouses from emptying out bank accounts, or transferring assets to third parties without the other spouse’s knowledge and consent.

The following issues should be considered in light of the ATROs described above. You should always consult your family lawyer before taking any action during a divorce.

Guardianship of Minor Children

You can divorce a spouse, but you cannot terminate your ex-spouse’s parental rights over your children. If something happens to either of you, the surviving parent typically becomes the sole legal guardian of the children. Keep that in mind when making guardianship decisions in your estate planning documents during and after your divorce. Your guardianship designations do not supersede your ex-spouse’s parental rights. It doesn’t matter how much or how little visitation the surviving parent has or had.

Nominating Your Ex Spouse

If your ex-spouse is listed as an agent or beneficiary in any of your existing estate planning documents, you should review the designations carefully and immediately. Your documents likely do not have any provisions addressing a divorce. Similarly, if your retirement assets, life insurance policies, or any other assets with beneficiary designations list your ex-spouse as the beneficiary or successor owner, consider updating those designations as well. Updating beneficiary designations could violate the ATROs. Please consult with your attorney before taking any action.

Revoke Joint Documents and Address Joint Assets

If you created a joint living trust with your ex-spouse prior to the divorce, you should consider revoking the trust. If you both agreed to hold assets jointly, either during or after divorce, consider drawing up a written agreement documenting the terms of your joint ownership.

Create An Interim Estate Plan

If you’re in the middle of divorce proceedings, you still need an estate plan. It needs to reflect that you are currently legally married (you will not be legally divorced until the court enters judgment), but that you are working towards not being married. You can create a will that distributes whatever you do own to the individuals or organizations that you care about. For example, that last thing you probably want is for assets you intended on going to your children to end up in the hands of your ex-spouse instead. You should also create a durable power of attorney that specifically allows your agent to work with you family law attorney to complete the divorce on your behalf in the event you are unable. You can create a separate living trust while you’re still married, but you’ll need to obtain a judgment dividing your assets before you can fund your living trust. This also means that if you’re funding a separate living trust during a divorce, it could violate those ATROs as well. For many divorcing couples, a will, power of attorney, and healthcare directive is a solid interim estate plan until the asset issues are resolved.

Everyone needs an estate plan. If you’re divorced or divorcing, it’s imperative that you document your wishes, and act with care and nuance when it comes to your transitioning family dynamics. Schedule an estate planning consultation with a competent attorney, and consult with your family law attorney throughout the process.

Estate Planning for Noncitizen Spouses

Today, 44% of Californians were born out of the state. And the proportion of foreign-born residents (28%) is nearly double that of transplants from other states (16%). From an estate planning standpoint, the big-picture concepts hold true whether or not someone is born in California. Non-Californians own property just like Californians do. Similarly, most everyone has loved ones who they care for most, regardless of citizenship or residency.

However, tax treatment is different depending on one’s citizenship and residency. Complications arise when one or both spouses in a married couple are not U.S. citizens.

If you and/or your spouse are non-citizens of the United States, then two major concepts will play a role in your estate plan: 1) the Unlimited Marital Deduction; and 2) the Gift and Estate Tax Exemption.

1. Unlimited Marital Deduction
   Married citizen couples enjoy a tax benefit called the “unlimited marital deduction”. Citizen spouses can transfer property back and forth between each other⁠—lifetime gifts or transfers on death⁠—and it is never a taxable event. Non-citizen spouses do not get this benefit. If your spouse is not a U.S. citizen, and you give them a gift, then it is only tax-free up to $154,000 a year (in 2019). (This amount is indexed for inflation). For example, adding your non-citizen spouse onto the title of your family home could potentially become a taxable gift. Or upon the citizen spouse’s death, the non-citizen inherits all of the marital assets without the marital deduction. Thankfully, estate planners have techniques, like a Qualified Domestic Trust, to assist non-citizens avoid unnecessary taxable events.

2. Gift and Estate Tax Exemption
   Married couples who are both citizens, or if they are legal permanent residents (green card holders), are granted a unified gift and estate tax exemption. In plain terms, if citizens or green card holders transfer property in the amount of $11.4 million (in 2019) or less then no gift or estate taxes are owed. (This amount is also indexed for inflation). That amount includes all lifetime gifts with whatever you own at death. In large part, citizens do not need to worry about making transfers to their citizen spouses. However, non-citizens only receive a $60,000 exemption from the gift and estate tax. That’s not a typo. Leaving property to a non-citizen could result in a lot of estate taxes without proper planning. For more about the gift and estate tax, read our previous blog post.

Putting the above concepts to work, if spouses transfer property between each other, and the recipient spouse is a non-citizen, then the marital deduction is nonexistent, and the citizen spouse would have to employ their gift and estate tax exemption, if they have one, where they otherwise would not have to. Then later, if the non-citizen spouse passes property to any children, the non-citizen spouse would not have the gift and estate tax exemption a citizen spouse would have. The result could be an avoidable disaster.

Non-citizens largely have the same desires and wishes that citizens have. Their legal status is merely different than that of citizens. However, that legal distinction does create challenges for which a plan is necessary. Do not leave your loved ones with an undesired mess. Get ahead of the issues by planning now.

Everyone Needs an Estate Plan (Examples 2 & 3)

Estate planning is much more than just death planning and giving away your stuff after you die. It’s also about planning for circumstances that you may not have anticipated. 

This post is the second installment in our "Everyone Needs and Estate Plan" series. If you missed Example 1, click here to read it.

Example 2: You are married, and you have a couple of children. Now imagine that you and your spouse divorce. Neither of you have done any estate planning. If you or your now ex-spouse remarry and die before his or her new spouse, you could have unintentionally just cut your kids out of his or her inheritance. Without proper planning, by default, your estate goes to your surviving spouse, the person you were married to when you died. In this example, the surviving spouse happened to be someone who is not the parent of your children. At least some of the assets you may have intended on going to your children are now in the hands of someone unrelated to your children.

Example 3: Same facts as Example 2, except neither of you remarry, and instead you both tragically die. Your children are still minors (under the age of 18) and lack the legal authority to make legally-binding decisions on their own (enrolling them in school, going on field trips, renting an apartment, making financial transactions, etc.). Because you did zero estate planning, we now have two orphans who need legal guardians. Well, you never got around to telling the world who that should be in a legal document. So whoever thinks they should be your children’s parents goes off to court, and hopefully the court makes a good decision. That's probably not the way you want it to play out.

Check back next week for another example of why everyone needs an estate plan. If you would like a free one-hour consultation to discuss your estate planning goals, do not hesitate to contact us.

Everyone Needs an Estate Plan (Example 1)

Estate planning is much more than just death planning and giving away your stuff after you die. It’s really about choosing decision makers for those moments when you cannot make your own decisions. Sure, you cannot make your own decisions after you have died. But there are several other times when you can end up incapacitated (meaning, you cannot legally make your own decisions) and yet still be very much alive. Without proper planning, you may leave your loved ones stuck in a tough place if you ever become incapacitated.

Over the next few weeks, we're going to walk through a few examples.

Example 1: Imagine that you and your spouse have decided to take your young kids skiing. As you’re taking photos of the little ones having a blast, you don’t realize that you’re headed right for a tree. Before you know it, you collide with the tree, you’re out cold, and you’re rushed to the hospital.

The good news is that you’re still alive. The bad news is that you’re now incapacitated. You’re unable to make your own medical and financial decisions. This could last for hours (medication), days (coma), or a lifetime (permanent brain damage). It’s now up to someone else to make those decisions for you.

Your spouse decides that he or she is going to step in and make decisions for you, including handling your finances, dealing with the insurance company, dealing with your boss, and maybe suing the ski resort. Unfortunately, you didn’t do any estate planning, so your spouse now has to go to court and have a judge issue an order that allows your spouse to make those decisions for you. This is the key: Your spouse can’t do any of the above without the appropriate authority.

You see, just because you’re married doesn’t give your spouse the legal authority to make decisions on your behalf. You have to give your spouse (or someone else) that power before you become incapacitated. This is commonly done in a power of attorney.

The same principle applies if you have children over the age of 18. Unless your child has given you the legal authority to make decisions on his or her behalf (for example, via a power of attorney), you need a court order to have that legal authority. And getting a court order when your child or loved one is incapacitated can be stressful and overwhelming, not to mention expensive. This is why it’s important to plan ahead.

Check back next week for another example of why everyone needs an estate plan. If you would like a free one-hour consultation to discuss your estate planning goals, do not hesitate to contact us.