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Talking About Estate Planning During the Holidays: A Gift That Lasts a Lifetime

The holidays are a time for family, celebration, and connection. While it may not be the most festive topic, discussing estate planning during this time can be one of the most meaningful conversations you have. Ensuring everyone in the family has a plan in place can bring peace of mind and strengthen your legacy.

Here’s how to approach these conversations with care and why it’s important.

Why the Holidays Are the Right Time

Holidays bring family together, often in a relaxed and open environment. This creates a unique opportunity to have important discussions face-to-face. Whether you’re talking to aging parents about their estate plans or encouraging adult children to start their own, now is the time to share thoughts, ask questions, and make plans.

Best Practices for Bringing It Up

Starting the conversation about estate planning can feel awkward, but a thoughtful approach can ease the tension.

  1. Choose the Right Moment
    Avoid bringing up the topic during a busy or stressful part of the holiday. Instead, find a quiet time, like after dinner or during a family walk, to gently introduce the subject.

    Example: “I’ve been working on updating my own estate plan, and it made me realize how important it is for all of us to have one. I thought it might be a good time to talk about this as a family.”

  2. Keep the Tone Positive
    Frame the discussion as a way to protect the family and honor their wishes, rather than focusing on the negatives of “what happens when…”

    Example: “Making sure everything is organized now can really help avoid stress later. It’s about making things easier for the people we care about.”

  3. Start with Your Own Plan
    Sharing what you’ve done with your own estate plan can make others feel more comfortable and inspired to take action.

    Example: “We recently created a living trust to make sure everything is straightforward for our kids. It’s been a relief to know it’s taken care of.”

Suggestions for the Discussion

  • For Parents:
    Ask if they’ve reviewed their estate plan recently. If they don’t have one, encourage them to meet with an attorney to create a will or trust.

    Tip: Offer to help them gather important documents or schedule a consultation.

  • For Adult Children:
    Emphasize that estate planning isn’t just for older adults. A basic plan, including a will, powers of attorney, and healthcare directives, is essential for anyone with assets or dependents.

    Tip: Share how your estate plan protects your family and invite them to think about doing the same.

  • For Siblings or Relatives:
    Discuss practical matters like who might serve as executor, guardian, or trustee and confirm everyone is on the same page.

Why This Matters

Without an estate plan, families often face confusion, stress, and financial strain during already difficult times. By encouraging your loved ones to take action now, you can protect their legacy and foster open communication that strengthens family bonds.

Let Us Help You Take the Next Step

Ready to get started? Whether you or your relatives need to create a plan or update an existing one, we’re here to guide you. Contact us today to schedule a consultation and give your family the gift of peace of mind this holiday season.


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