Reviewing and Updating Your Estate Plan is Crucial as Your Child Turns 18 and Heads to College

We spend years preparing our children for adulthood. One significant milestone is when they turn 18 or when they head off to college. While this transition is exciting, it also brings new legal responsibilities. When your child becomes a legal adult, it's crucial to review and update your estate plan. Ensuring your now-adult child has their own estate plan is essential to authorize you (or another trusted person) to make decisions in a crisis.

The Shift in Legal Authority

At 18, your child is legally an adult. This means that without the proper legal documents, you may not have the authority to make critical decisions on their behalf. In emergencies, this can be particularly challenging. Here are key documents your child should have:

1. Durable Power of Attorney
   This document allows your child to appoint someone (typically a parent) to manage their financial affairs if they become incapacitated. It ensures that bills are paid, and financial matters are handled without delay.

2. Health Care Directive and HIPAA Authorization
   A health care directive allows your child to designate someone to make medical decisions on their behalf if they're unable to do so. Paired with a HIPAA authorization, it ensures you can access their medical information in an emergency, enabling informed decision-making.

3. Last Will
   A Will does more than just distribute assets at death. It nominates someone to represent a deceased person’s estate. This authority can be crucial in post-mortem issues like civil and criminal legal proceedings and managing intangible property like intellectual property.

4. FERPA Release
   Under the Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act (FERPA), your child's educational records are private. A FERPA release allows you to access their academic records and communicate with the college on their behalf regarding academic or financial issues.

The Importance of Updating Your Own Estate Plan

As your children transition from minors to young adults, it's also an ideal time to review and update your own estate plan. The needs and dynamics of your family have likely changed since your children were young. Here are a few key considerations:

1. Review Guardianship Provisions
   If your estate plan includes guardianship provisions for minor children, these may no longer be necessary. Instead, focus on ensuring your young adult children are properly provided for in your estate plan.

2. Adjust Beneficiary Designations
   As your children become adults, you may want to update beneficiary designations on life insurance policies, retirement accounts, and other assets to reflect their new status.

3. Consider Inheritance Trusts
   If you want to manage how and when your children receive their inheritance, consider setting up inheritance trusts. This can provide financial oversight and protection as they navigate adulthood.

4. Update Health Care Directives
   Ensure your own health care directives and powers of attorney are current and designate trusted individuals who can make decisions on your behalf.

Taking Action

As your child prepares to leave for college, it's the perfect time to review and update your estate plan. Schedule a meeting with an estate planning attorney to discuss your family's needs and ensure all necessary documents are in place. This proactive step provides peace of mind, knowing that you can support your child in any situation and that your own estate plan reflects your current wishes.

Transitioning to adulthood is a significant step for your child and your family. By updating your estate plan and ensuring your child has the necessary legal documents, you safeguard their future and ensure you can assist them when it matters most. Contact our office today to schedule a consultation and review your estate planning needs.

Everyone Needs an Estate Plan

Everyone needs an estate plan. If you’re reading this, you’re probably aware that you–and if you’re married, your spouse–need an estate plan. But there are other people in your orbit who need an estate plan: your young adult children. Your children over the age of 18 need an estate plan, too. Yes, even the ones who still live at home, and the ones who you claim as a dependent. Or are away at college. Especially the ones who are away at college.

Anyone over the age of 18 is a legal adult. The law does not care whether that person is gainfully employed or playing video games until 3am. Reaching 18 years of age is an arbitrary measurement, and when it’s achieved, congratulations! You’re an adult! What comes with adulthood is the ability to make your own legally binding decisions… and to prohibit others from making decisions for you. Even if those “other people” are paying your bills, claiming you as a dependent, or housing you.

Consider your typical college-aged child. They are likely over the age of 18, or very close to it. They likely do not have much life experience, and base decisions on the nearterm. They may be impressionable, or easily persuaded. Or maybe they’re just a knucklehead. If, as a result of a misguided decision, they were to become incapacitated (think: hospitalized, detained by law enforcement, involved in a crisis, etc.), no one can make decisions for them without a properly executed estate plan–e.g., will, durable power of attorney, healthcare directive. Not even their parents! You see, they’re adults. Any institutions your adult child interacts with will only want to speak to your child. University administration, banks, authorities, doctors, school officials, etc., won’t listen to anyone but your adult child. They are legally prohibited from listening to third parties, even the parents of an adult.

A young adult crisis can appear anywhere. It could be a party gone wrong. It could be from spending time with that one friend of theirs that they just can’t seem to get enough of. Maybe it was a date or hangout gone wrong. If you, as a parent, want the ability to make decisions on behalf of your adult child, they must execute estate planning documents giving you that authority. Otherwise, you are at the mercy of the local court process. And if your child is away at college, that court process might be very foreign to you, operating under laws you aren’t familiar with.

Maybe your child is in a crisis because someone injured them. With a properly executed estate plan, your child could authorize you to file a lawsuit against the perpetrator on their behalf, speak to school administrators on their behalf, speak to the government on their behalf.

It doesn’t matter that your adult child doesn't “own much”. Or that they aren’t employed, or that they live at home, or live in a dorm and come home often. None of those things matter if your child is over the age of 18, and you want the ability to make decisions on their behalf in a crisis. Everyone needs an estate plan.

How to Know Your Estate Plan is Current

Not having an estate plan comes at a significant risk for every single person, regardless of wealth, age, or life circumstance. Everybody’s estate plan may look different. It’s important to be sure your estate plan is tailored to your circumstances. Having an estate plan that is not current–meaning, it does not reflect your current wishes or address your current life circumstance–is as detrimental as not having a plan at all. In some cases, having an estate plan that is not suited to your life can be worse than not having one at all. Just like our lives evolve with time, our estate plan must adjust from time to time to address our life circumstances.

Are your young children not so young anymore? Are you transitioning into another phase of your life, like retirement or an “empty nest”? Did your life take an unexpected twist? Or maybe you weren’t aware of some changes in the law of which you would like to take advantage. Here are four things to look for in an existing estate plan to help spot potential areas for revision.

Unnecessary AB Trust

An “AB Trust” is a living trust created by a married couple that “splits” into two or more separate trusts upon the death of one spouse. It was commonly used prior to 2013 for estate tax purposes. It is still commonly used for non-tax purposes, such as re-marriage protection or with blended families. Since estate tax exemption amounts have increased dramatically since 2013, and since we allow spouses to use both of their exemption amounts automatically (“portability”), the AB Trust is no longer commonly used for estate tax purposes. If you created your trust prior to 2013 and your combined estate is worth less than $10 million, then you may want to consider restating your trust to remove the AB Trust provisions.

Outdated distribution path or specific gifts–adult children

Gifts for small children may look a lot different than provisions for adult children. Perhaps parents of young children placed basic care and needs like shelter and education above all else, and made provisions in their trust to reflect that priority. When that young child is a married adult with their own children, those protective provisions may look silly. Similarly, if a young child has grown into an adult who makes questionable decisions–with money, with partners, with their use of their free time–perhaps it’s time to put in more protective provisions for that child. There are many options for providing for your loved ones.

Additionally, perhaps your adult children have become more distinctive as they got older. For example, maybe one of your children moved abroad and the other is staying nearby, perhaps taking some of their time and resources to care for you. Maybe it’s a good idea to discuss whether to leave your home to one child and not equally to both, as to provide for the child who is caring for you, and to not create property tax issues.

Outdated list of decisionmakers

This is by far the most common reason people revise their estate plan. An estate plan is, after all, more about people than things. Being sure the decisionmakers are a list of good, reliable choices is paramount to a comprehensive estate plan. Click here for a prior post discussing how to choose decisionmakers.

Upcoming transition–divorce, aging partner, health issues

Life is nothing but a series of transitions. Your estate plan should be revisited regularly to be sure it addresses the current transition and contemplates any upcoming changes, as well. Are you going through a divorce? Are you about to retire? Perhaps you or your spouse are facing health issues. These are all reasons to revisit your estate plan and plan for the worst while hoping for the best. After all, you didn’t create an estate plan simply to address one set of circumstances.

Use this opportunity to be proactive in shaping your estate plan. If you wait too long, your agency will vanish, and in its place may only be left regret. Speak to an estate planning attorney to explore your options.